Maharal-Chabad

The Maharal-Chabad Nexus

An Interview With Dr. Naftali Loewenthal

Q: As a scholar who has written extensively on Chabad Chasidic thought, how do you define the connection between the Maharal’s thought and that of Chabad Chasidism?

A: The Maharal was in a sense the first Chasidic writer, because like the later Chasidim, he communicated ideas based on the Midrashic, Aggadic and Kabbalistic dimensions of Jewish thought, seeking through them to create an ethos and a mode of personal relationship with the Divine.  

The overt form of much of his writing is the exposition of Aggadic and Midrashic passages, without using Kabbalistic terminology. However, many of the ideas he communicates are based in Kabbalistic sources such as the Zohar and Sefer Yetzirah.  

Q: Is there any indication in Chasidic texts suggesting that Chabad directly traces its ideas to the Maharal? 

A: Rabbi Shneur Zalman wrote on the title page of Tanya that it is based on “books and on authors.” There is a Chabad tradition that the ‘books’ he refers to include those of his ancestor the Maharal, while the ‘authors’ include Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Vitebsk, who was an older colleague of Rabbi Shneur Zalman and in some ways was also his teacher.    

I find it interesting that this R. Menachem Mendel also leads us back to the Maharal as an influence on Rabbi Shneur Zalman.  Dr. Bezalel Safran has written an extensive discussion of the thought of the Maharal and compares it closely with the thought of R. Menachem Mendel of Vitebsk (in Betzalel Safran Hasidism, Continuity or Innovation? Harvard, 1988).  

One can suggest that elements of the Maharal’s perceptions of spirituality, reaching him both by the Maharal’s printed works and through their influence on his colleague Rabbi Menahem Mendel of Vitebsk, were systematized in Rabbi Shneur Zalman’s Tanya.

Q: What are some examples of the direct influence of the Maharal in the substance of Rabbi Shneur Zalman’s teachings?

A: An important theme in Chasidic thought is what has been called Panentheism, the idea that “all is within G-d.” The theme of the second section of Tanya is that the first line of the Shema means not merely that there is One G-d, but that there is only G-d, because all is within G-d. 

The Maharal gives forceful expression to this concept in Gevurot Hashem (NY, 1969; Israel, 1980, p.181) where he states that belief in G-d means not only the belief that G-d controls existence and gave the Torah, but also that “G-d is everything and that there is nothing outside Him.” Merely to believe that G-d “exists,” says the Maharal, is not enough. One must believe that all is G-d and is within G-d, very close to Rabbi Shneur Zalman’s teaching. 

Another possible example is the Maharal’s use of the theme of Tzelem Elokim, the “Divine Image.”  In his writings this idea takes a number of different forms. According to Safran, these relate not only to the Divine indwelling in the individual but also to that in existence as a whole. 

I would suggest that the systematization in Tanya presenting the idea of the Divine Soul in the individual, and the Divine “Radiance which fills the worlds” in existence in general, while using themes from the Lurianic Kabbalah, are also consonant with the Maharal’s teachings and may even be inspired by them.

http://lubavitch.com/news/article/2027172/The-Maharal-Chabad-Nexus.html

Accordingly, it is incorrect to say, as we sometimes hear people in Lubavitch say, that women are more spiritual than men. The Maharal says that it is men who are more spiritual.

The Maharal says that, though created simultaneously, the asynchronous formation of the first man and woman does have bearing on their relative spiritual makeup. However, the male was formed last.

"There is to conclude that, just the opposite, the woman was created first. Even though concerning the matter that [Hashem] took the bone from [Adam’s] bones [to create Chava], and this occurred after the creation of Adam, in the final analysis [we can conclude] that Chava was created first. Behold, it is written, “Male and female [He] created them” and “[He] called their name Adam.” It appears that immediately before this [the formation of Chava], the female was created as a pair [with the male]. And then the female [as a distinct entity] was formed [before the male was]. The order of the creation is given as first the mammal, then the woman, and then the male. One sees that the working of the creation is always that the one at a higher level comes last. So here, the male is last since he is more chashuv. In this is the reason behind the saying of the Rabbis that the woman matures more quickly than the man – the girl at twelve and a day and the boy at thirteen and a day. This is the completion of their maturity. This all follows from the principle that each thing with more completeness, its completion comes last. There, the formation of the male is last and not first.[1] Thus, the formation of Adam occurred after the formation of Chava and this indicates the spiritual ascendancy of the male over the female. One contemporary educator proposed to the author that this formation might be a final formation that consisted of the closing of Adam’s flesh after the material was taken to form Chava."

[1] Maharal, Gur Aryeh, Vayikra 12:2, beginning of parshas Tazriah.

Maharal (Bava Metzia 59a): All those who follow the advice of their wife fall into Gehinom – This is truly incredible. We explain this also in relationship to Avos (1:5), All those who talk a lot with their wives are idle from words of Torah and in the end they inherit Gehinom. You should know that the woman is compared to Substance while the man is compared to the Form in every place. And when the Form is not separated from the Substance but rather the Form follows after the Substance entirely – he falls in Gehinom. That is because it is well known that the deficit is attached and bound with the Substance. This is alluded to by the Sages when they noted that when the woman was created the Samech was created with her. Because we don’t find the letter Samech in the Torah until the woman was created. ויסגר בשר תחתנה Bereishis (2:21) and closed up the flesh. That teaches you that with the woman was attached the deficit which is Satan who is the Angel of Death. When the Form follow after the Substance the Form obtains the deficit. That is because Gehinom is only the complete deficit as we learn from the names Gehinom itself... But this is only when the husband listen to her regarding worldly matters. But regarding household matters, “He should bend down and listen to her”. That is because it is clear that the Form stands on the Substance and the Substance serves the Form and is like a house for the Substance. Therefore regarding household matters “He should bend down and listen to her”. In contrast in worldly matters, if the Form follows after the Substance – then such is loss and deficit for the Form. However according to the other answer of the gemora that a husband should listen to his wife also for worldly matters that is because the Form stands on the Substance and thus also advice worldly matters are relevant. It is only spiritual matters that should be avoided from the wife. That is because the husband is considered the abstract Form but not the Form in the Substance. In such a case if the man follows after the Substance it would be a deficit for him. That would mean that the Form which is the abstract Form is sunken in the Substance which is a completely negative for the Form. Understand these matters in depth because they are very clear.

Maharal (Avos 1:5):Don’t have excessive idle conversations with women. ...That is because one who does is going towards and is attracted to a reality which is lacking and he is clinging to an deficit which is evil. This is like we said above in the introduction that when the woman was created that Satan was created with her. This is stated in Bereishis Rabbah (17), That the letter “samech” does not appear in the Torah until woman was created. This is to teach us that when the woman was created that Satan was created with her. The explanation of this is as we said. The woman is more materialistic then the man because the man is considered to be on the level of Form relative to the woman. And since the woman is more materialistic the Satan was created with her. That is because the Satan is the Angel of Death which is the power which causes a lack amongst the created beings. That is because the lack is associated with material as is known concerning material which it clings and is attracted by the deficit. This is what is meant that when the woman was created that Satan was created with her. In other words this is referring to the level of man because the male is on a higher level than the female. That is because the female is attached to absence and deficit. Now to explain the Mishna which says that whoever has excessive idle conversations with womem causes evil to himself. That is because when a man follows after the woman who is clinging to the deficit – there is no greater evil than the deficit as is well known. This however is does not degrade the woman herself at all. But rather it is saying that when a man goes down from his level to go after a woman with excessive idle chatter then the man is deviating from reality and moves toward deficit. Thus it is negative and evil for the man when he deviates from his proper level which is the level of the male and goes after something which is lower than his proper level.Thus when the Tanna of the Mishna points this out, he is not coming to diminish the love a man has for his wife. Because unquestionably a man should love his wife as he loves himself and the Tanna is not addressing that at all. He is only concerned with a man having excessive idle chatter with his wife. Because to the degree he has excessive idle chatter with his wife he goes down from the level of the male and is attracted to material which is attached to deficit. Thus he is causing evil to himself.[to be continued] 

Maharal, Tiferes Yisrael, Perek 28

Free Translation:

Rav Tachlifa says, it is fitting to proceed with women first at the receiving of Torah. The reason

for this stems from the fact that connection to Hashem comes through the commandments. The man is

better fit for this connection. The woman is more physical and her level is not as high as is the man’s.

Therefore Adam HaRishon was commanded first since he was closer to Hashem. The woman’s greater

distance from Hashem led to her initiation of the first sin and destruction upon the world. Because her

connection is lacking, she caused sin which greater damaged the connection. The first man’s connection

was also not complete as was Israel’s at the receiving of Torah. They received a complete connection.

Since the connection at Gan Eden was not complete, therefore the man went first and afterward the

woman.

But Israel received a complete connection when Torah was given to them. This is demonstrated

by the case of Adam who received only a portion of the commandments and therefore his connection was

incomplete. Because of the complete connection established at the receiving of Torah, it was safe to

approach the women first. The women are not at a level as high as are the men, but the connection at

Sinai was complete. Afterwards the man was commanded, his connection and his level are higher than

that of the women. Therefore the command of the women preceded the men. The receiving of Torah by

the women shows that this reception of all of Israel was complete. And this complete reception is a

greater thing. Therefore she is mentioned first.


Explanation:

Commandments solidify the connection of people to Hashem. However, a person must be

equipped to handle the connection. Only a portion of commandments were given in Gan Eden, so the

connection of man to Hashem made at that time was incomplete. Since Adam was naturally better

connected to Hashem than was Chava, he was better able to constructively manage the incomplete

connection made at that time. Chava’s initiation of the first sin is proof that her connection was lacking

something that Adam’s did not lack. At Har Sinai, a full set of commandments was given and therefore a

complete connection to Hashem was being formed. Under such conditions, the danger of giving Torah to

women first was satisfactorily eliminated. The women are still at a lower spiritual level than are the men,

but there was no danger at Har Sinai of their being at a lower level leading to destruction.

With the danger eliminated, it was better to approach the women first for various other reasons.

These reasons include their enthusiasm for commandments, to encourage them to lead their children in

the ways of Torah, and to emphasize to them their reward for enabling their husband’s Torah learning.

The enthusiasm of women mentioned in the first reason is an individual personality trait. It is not a

comprehensive desire for commandments, but rather an initial desire. The Radal explains that this

enthusiasm wears off when obstacles to the commandments appear (Radal on Midrash Rabbah, Shemos

28:2:4). The third reason relates to a fear that the women would prevent their husbands from accepting

Torah since the women may not see what gain they have from Torah since only men are commanded to

learn it. Speaking to the women first was a way of demonstrating to them their equal share in their

husband’s reward for learning.

Literal Translation:

Rav Tachlifa says, it is fitting to proceed with women first. And this is because the decree and the

command from Hashem, may He be blessed, to man who receives it, is the covenant and the connection

of Hashem to man, who received the decree. And this is explained in many places. And since the man is

more fitting to the covenant and the connection with Hashem, may He be blessed, since the woman is

more physical, and the level of the woman is not like that of the man, therefore, the man was commanded

first since his level was close to Hashem, may He be blessed. And because of this, the woman destroyed

since the connection of the woman to Hashem, may He be blessed, is not like that of the man. Behold,

her connection is lacking. And since the connection is lacking, it came from this destruction that damages

the connection. And this thing is specifically by the man who did not receive the complete connection

like all of Israel who received a complete connection. Therefore with regard to the man was the

connection according to his level, the man went first and the woman after. All is according to the level of

the person.

Rather, Israel received a complete connection when Torah was given to them. And the proof of

this is that Adam HaRishon received only a portion of the commandments and therefore the connection

was not complete but Israel, since the Torah given to them was compete, their connection to Hashem was

complete. Therefore it is fitting for the woman to be commanded first at the receiving of Torah since this

thing was a complete connection. The woman is not at such a level when she received the decree but it

was a complete connection. And afterwards the man was commanded his connection and his level are

greater than that of the woman. Therefore the command of the woman preceded the man. The receiving

of Torah by the woman shows this that the reception of all of Israel was complete. And this is a greater

thing. Therefore she is mentioned first.

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Seventh Lubavitcher Rebbe, Menachem M. Schneerson on the Exemption

Explanation for the Exemption of Women from Time-bound Commandments

The Seventh Lubavitcher Rebbe, Menachem M. Schneerson, zt’l

Today’s portion of Rambam concerns the mitzvah to write a Sefer Torah. The obligation to write a Sefer Torah, however, devolves only upon men, not upon women. What connection, then, is there between this mitzvah and women?

We shall resolve this difficulty by first explaining why in general there are certain mitzvos which women are not obligated to carry out. It is not because women are inferior to men. It is because G-d has given each Jew a mission uniquely suited to the individual: A task for men and a separate task for women – and a mission common to both men and women.

The relationship between men and women may be compared to the workings of a person’s body. All of a person’s limbs are part of the one body; yet each limb has a different function: the head – intellect, the heart – emotions, etc. Thus the body has two separate – but simultaneous – dimensions. On the one hand, all its limbs share the same life-force: the blood circulates to all its limbs, and only when circulation in all limbs is proper is the body healthy. Simultaneously, each limb has its own distinct character and function.

Within the body of Jewry, the same two dimensions are operative. There are some aspects of Torah which men and women share equally. For example, the mitzvah, “Love your fellow as yourself.” Since this mitzvah is most important for the continuing health of Jewry – it is Jewry’s “life force” – it devolves upon men and women equally. Similarly, the mitzvah, “to know that there is a First Being” – knowledge, not just faith – is obligatory upon women as upon men.

Simultaneously, there are aspects of Judaism in which men and women differ, with special missions given to a man and others to a woman. So that each can carry out his or her task fully, he or she is freed from other obligations. Although these other obligations are holy matters, the full and proper accomplishment of one’s special tasks demands that one be freed of these other obligations.

For men to carry out their task for example, they are freed of duties such as rearing children from birth. To this end, G-d created the world such that a child, in his early years, needs and is dependent on this mother specifically.

In similar fashion, women were freed of certain obligations so that they can devote themselves fully to their unique task. A child’s education in his early years, for example, is the mother’s responsibility, and to this end, women are freed from the obligation to fulfill certain Mitzvos which men are duty-bound to do. Women are thus able to devote all their energies to their unique mission.

In the above described relationship between men and women – that each is freed of certain duties so that they can properly carry out their primary mission – a wonderful element is introduced. Because G-d is whole and perfect, He implanted the trait of wholeness and perfection also in Torah and mitzvos. Thus, although women are not obligated to perform certain mitzvos, they can still attain the state of wholeness and perfection effected through fulfilling these mitzvos — although they do not actually perform them! How?

Women are freed from performing mitzvos which are obligatory only at a specific time (e.g., tzitzis, which is obligatory only during the day). The AriZal writes concerning such mitzvos: “When the male performs the mitzvah, it is unnecessary that the woman should also do them separately, for she has already been included with him at the time when he does the mitzvah ... This is the meaning of our Sages’ statement, ‘One’s wife is as one’s body.’” Similarly, the Zohar says that a man (or woman) alone is “half a body.”

In other words, when Torah frees a women [sic] from certain mitzvos, it frees her only from doing them— so that she can devote her time and energies to her unique mission. The state of wholeness and perfection that is attained, and the reward that accrues, from these mitzvos, does pertain to women also — through her husband performing them.

This applies even to a girl before she is married, through the fact that her destined partner in marriage performs the mitzvos she is not obligated to do. For just as a man and a woman are but “half a body” before marriage, and are whole only when married, so too their soul is whole only when they are together: that is, a man and wife have a single soul.

However, although destined partners in marriage have one soul (as the soul is in the heavenly spheres), G-d’s desire is that when that soul descends to earth it should for a time (before marriage), be divided into two: half the soul in the boy and half in the girl. Each fulfills its mission separately until the right time comes when G-d joins them, and they fulfill their tasks together, fortified by the special Divine blessing (Bereishis 1:27-28), “He created them male and female; and He blessed them.”

The joining of two halves of one soul, which for years were separated from each other, sometimes even in different lands, is the reason for the intense joy at a marriage, infinitely greater than the joy at any other event. It is the greatest joy imaginable when G-d, Who “sits and makes matches, assigning this man to that woman and this woman to that man,” brings the halves of the soul together to make them again one soul.

G-d, of course, knows even before marriage to whom each half of a single soul belongs. Thus, when a boy performs a mitzvah devolving on men only, his fulfillment of it counts also for the other half of the soul which resides in his destined wife. He may not know of it, but G-d does.

In the light of the above, we can now understand that the mitzvah of writing a Sefer Torah applies to women and girls, too.

Sichos in English, Iyar-Tammuz 5744, Vol. 21, pp. 69-72, N’shei Convention.

Personal regulation

Emotion is to women what sex is to men, an all consuming drive. It needs to be regulated. The drive in men when channeled becomes like fuel for a rocket. It gives a man energy to study Torah, daven 3x a day, do mitzvos, guide his family, build communities, etc. It also needs a direct outlet and that comes in the form of marital relations about which there are rules as to when and how. It must be wholesome, not perverse. Without the regulation, a man, and nearly any man, can become like Tiger Woods, or Elliot Spitzer, or Anthony Wiener, or countless other men who are out of control sexually. They tear their lives apart.


Likewise, women's emotions when regulated become the fuel for her good deeds. Love is an emotion. Caring for others comes largely from emotions. Excitement for Yom Tov and Shabbos can be an emotion. Love of Hashem is largely emotional. There is plenty of room for emotion in a woman's religious life. It is a key component in her religious life. But unregulated, a woman becomes a Tiger Woods, an Elliot Spitzer. If she spills her emotions wildly, unregulated, undisciplined into her daily life, she tears her life apart and that of the people who depend on her. Emotion in women is a potent force like sex in men.


The regulation goes on all day long. A man wants to look at every woman who passes by. He must not. He wants to do all kinds of things that he must not. He must use his chochmah and his will to discipline himself. He feels good about himself when he does. He becomes holy when he does.


Likewise, a woman must regulate her emotions all the time. She can't explode with torrents of emotion on a daily or hourly basis or be consumed with negativity which is a woman's version of being perverse. She must handle her emotions with maturity. She must use her binah and her will to regulate herself. She feels good about herself when she does. She becomes holy when she does.

chochmah

Maharal - men excel in Chochmah, women in Binah.

Baal HaTanya (a descendant of the Maharal) - Chochmah is higher than Binah.

"The soul-faculties of “knowledge” (Daat) and “understanding” (Binah) are lower than Chochmah; yet the level of Chochmah is prevented from acting upon them (and upon the other, still lower, faculties) as long as they are immersed in mundane pleasures. Thus, the Chochmah of their divine soul is dormant, not dead. It has lost none of its potency, only its ability to exercise it; just as when one sleeps he retains full possession of his faculties though he cannot use them." Today's Tanya Lesson, Shevat 10, 5779 · January 16, 2019, Likutei Amarim, Chapter 19

https://www.chabad.org/dailystudy/tanya_cdo/jewish/Tanya.htm

cycles of time

just saw this on the web, makes sense

According to the Mahral, men are more spiritual than women or in his words the Ish is the tzurah & the Isha is the Chomer. (this by the way is why women are more bound to the cycles of time then men are, they are more connected to the physical world than men are.

Acc.to M”A 611

only men can reach level of a mal’ach

Rav Avigdor Miller on Bas Mitzvahs and Holy Women

Toras Avigdor



Rav Avigdor Miller on Bas Mitzvahs and Holy Women
Q:
Why don't we make a bas-mitzvah for a girl, the same way we make a bar-mitzvah for a boy?

A:
I will tell you one of the reasons. And this is an important reason. The derech ha'Torah is to keep women undercover. The idea that women should come out in public more than required and  be on display - even a young girl - is not the derech ha'Torah. It can't be helped. We will not be foolish and ignore human nature. The nations of the world are doing their best to ignore human nature and they're suffering terribly because of that. There must be a separation between the two genders. להתרחק מן הנשים, to keep separate from women, is an ideal. Not because of any chisaron, chas v'shalom, in women. Women can be even greater than men in the eyes of Hashem. And often they are! But they have to keep away from men. And men have to keep away from women.

So at a boy's bar-mitzvah, he comes to shul, everybody's listening to him, looking at him. He's on display. It's not good for a girl to be looked at too much. The less they see of her, the better we off we all are. It can't be helped. Men have a drive which women don't have. Men are more easily excited than women are. That's why men have to be especially careful not to have women around them.

Any woman who walks in the street with her body exposed is going to pay a very big price for that. She's going to be punished terribly for what she has done to men. If she walks in the street exposing her body to men a great punishment will fall upon her. She doesn't realize how expensive that outfit really was. And that's because men are sensitive. It can't be helped. That's their nature. And therefore Hakodosh Boruch Hu says that there should be a great mechitza between men and women forever and ever. And that's the kedusha of the Am Yisroel. We are separate.

That doesn't in any way, chas ve'shalom, reflect anything about the Jewish women. Jewish women are kodosh kodoshim just like the Jewish men are kodesh kodoshim. And the Gemara says that in a certain sense women are more fortunate than men. Why? Because they sit at home and don't look for kavod like men. They don't fight about who gets shishi. They're at home and because of their nature it's easier for them to avoid many things that cause men nisyonos.

And therefore the Jewish woman is just as holy as the Jewish man. No question about it. And in Gan Eden they are considered no less than men. No less than men at all! Only that in this world we have to separate because that is the derech ha'Torah. That is the Am Yisroel. That is the Holy Nation.
TAPE E-191

Whence Lady Rabbis?

Orthodox rabbis everywhere are condemning Open Orthodoxy and its call for lady rabbis and other engagement by females in halachically prescribed and traditional male activity like reading from the Torah and the wearing of tzitzis and tefillin. However, many of these very same rabbis bear responsibility for encouraging this new trend by teaching that women are more spiritual than men.

The teaching that women are more spiritual than men implies that a man's role is more spiritual than a woman's. How so? One can reasonably ask, if women are more spiritual, shouldn't they be the rabbis and spiritual leaders of the home? So apologists like to say, the men "catch up" via Torah study, tefillin, and other positive time-bound commandments to which women are exempt. However, in order to catch up the man's day must be more spiritual than the woman's or he'd never catch up. Thus, according to that logic, taking care of the home and the children really is a less spiritual path.

But isn't this precisely what we didn't want the women to conclude? See where dishonesty gets you? No wonder we have women today that want to be rabbis and wear tefillin. Rabbis condemn them, but these women are in many respects products of what they have been taught by some of those very same rabbis. These women want to be spiritual. And they have been taught that the man's role is more spiritual.

Why do I call the apologetics dishonesty? Because there are no Torah sources that teach them. R' Samson R. Hirsch is most commonly cited. But one has to read his words carefully. He says only that the Torah “did not consider them necessary to be demanded from women” in part because they have “more faithful enthusiasm for their God-serving calling.” (Vayikra 23, Levy trans.) People get lost on his use of the word "necessary." A Levi doesn't need to do Birchos Cohanim. Only the Kohen, who has more holiness, has that “need.” The woman doesn't “need” those mitzvos for her role. But she doesn't have the man's role. You can't mix and match. R' Hirsch also say that "The male sex is zachar, it is the depository of the Divine revelations and the spiritual attainments of the human race. To it has been entrusted the zicharon, the tradition of the human race as it has developed, in him is formed the spiritual chain which links together the beginning and the end of the human race. (JE, Vol. 2; CW, Vol. VIII, "The Jewish Woman") This is not something you'd want to assign to the less spiritual person. Rav Hirsch also says in many places that men and women are equal in their spiritual levels even as their roles are different. Example:

"In the word איש and אשה. (man and a female man I.L.) lay the guarantee for the equality in rank and mutually complementing calling of Man and Woman. As long as man and woman were איש and אשה. there was no need for man to be emancipated from woman nor woman from man, neither could make the other into a slave nor yet into a god or goddess. The first who altered this designation - as indeed our sages remark, in no other language are man and woman designated by words coming from the same root and so regarded from the same trend of thought – brought it about that one man would yoke his woman to the plough while the other would throw himself at her feet." (R' Samson Raphael Hirsch, Genesis 11 :58)

As for other commentators, the Maharal says in many places that men are more spiritual than women (Tiferes Yisroel 28, Derech Chaim 1:5, Chidushei Agados Makkos 23b, Gur Aryeh, Vayikra 12:2 ) and says that women are exempt from positive time-bound commandments for this reason (Chidushei Agados Makkos 23b). The Baal Magen Avraham says women are exempt from positive time-bound commandments because their yetzer tov is smaller. (Zies Ra'anan on Yalkut Shemoni, Shmuel 1:1).

May we suggest that going forward we teach simply that men and women are equal in spiritual levels but different in roles? So taught the great leaders of our era Rav Moshe Feinstein, the Lubavitcher Rebbe, R' Joseph Soloveitchik, and R' Avigdor Miller.

R' Feinstein said that every mention of holiness in the Chumash refers to both men and women, telling us that the two genders are equal in holiness. The exemption of women from positive time-bound commandments is as the word says an exemption so that she can engage in child rearing and chesed. (Igros Moshe, Orach Chaim IV #49) R' Feinstein writes elsewhere:

"...every Jew should realize that he is sanctified with the holiness of the Jew, and it is only because of that holiness that we were given the Torah and obligated to do the mitzvos. As I have often written, mitzvos cannot be fulfilled properly unless the doer has the holiness of the Jew. The Kohanim, who have additional mitzvos, must have the particular holiness of Kohanim....The expression "Who has sanctified us with His mitzvos" should not be misunderstood as meaning that mitzvos are the source of the sanctity. It is self-understood that the sanctity the blessing refers to is the underlying sanctity of every Jew -- that which enables us to fulfill the mitzvos." (Darash Moshe, Volume II, p. 154, Vayikra, Kedoshim)

Thus, we should not say that men are not unholy until they do the mitzvos because their holiness is what obligates them in those mitzvos. Women also are holy, only they are exempt from certain mitzvos so that they can do other mitzvos. It's not that the women are less holy and not that they are more holy.

R' Soloveitchik said:

"The foremost distinguishing characteristic bestowed upon man is his Divine image, his tzelem Elohim, which denotes particular qualitative endowments, such as a moral sense, free will, and intellect. Man partakes of these attributes within human limitations, while God's representation of these qualities is absolute. Maimonides embodied man's likeness to God primarily in terms of his intellect (Guide 1: 1). This Divine gift was given to both men and women. 'And God created man with His image. In the image of God, He created him; male and female He created them.' (Gen. 1:27). In their spiritual natures, they were equally worthy." (Man of Faith in the Modern World, p. 84).

The Lubavitcher Rebbe said that when a husband (or future husband) does those mitzvos, he does them on behalf of his wife. She is affected by his actions. (Sichos in English, Iyar-Tammuz 5744, Vol. 21, pp. 69-72)

R' Miller says that the father performs those special mitzvos on behalf of the whole family (Q&A: Thursday Nights with Rabbi Miller, pp. 189-190) and that

"As we know, men are commanded to perform mitzvos asei she'haz'man grama, time-bound mitzvos. Women, on the other hand, are not required to perform these mitzvos. What is the reason for this difference? The answer is that women have other important obligations to tend to, which exempt her from these commandments. A woman must know that she is a briah shel chessed, she has been created for the purpose of performing chessed. Being a wife and mother is a very significant role, and it requires her to be selfless and totally dedicated to performing chessed! It takes a woman's entire effort to succeed in being an efficient mother and wife. Investing her abilities in raising children is very time consuming but is a tremendous zechus for her!" (Rabbi Avigdor Miller Speaks, p. 272)

Nobody is spiritually superior. That's the way for this generation to think of it. Let us note how the sages of our generation handle it and follow their lead. Otherwise, to quote a gentile writer "O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practise to deceive!" (Walter Scott)

more boys than girls

The statistics are in for the year of 2016 with regards to the Israeli birthrate, and unsurprisingly the Chareidim are leading once again. Some 181,405 babies were born in 2016, an increase of 92 percent since 1980. 93,364 of those babies were boys making up 51.5 pecent of the total, while the other 48.5 percent at 88,041 were girls.

https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/israel-news/1488508/birthrate-in-israel-increases-charedim-at-head-of-the-pack.html