Here is a man who married a woman who was not too young, but who was idealistic. She wanted to keep Yiddishkeit well. He married her, and because he was not trained to get along with somebody else, he found faults in her and he expected her to be more obedient to him. The end was divorce, and her life was ruined. This Shomer Shabbos out of town girl had waited a long time to get married, and finally he came along and she felt this was it . And then the divorce ruined her, and she fell into a deep slough of depression, fell ill with cancer, and died. And he is the one who is guilty. When he married again, he married a very old girl, far from good-looking, and much too old to have any children. It was a lack of realism. When you are married, make up your mind to do the best you can with what Hakodesh Boruch Hu sent you this time. That is the first of the Aseres HaDibros, the 'Ten Commandments, of Marriage.
R' Avigdor Miller, Career of Happiness, p. 127
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